Merry Ex-mas

Co-parenting during the Christmas season can be a challenging experience, yet with good communication, planning and focusing on the children, it’s possible to make it work for everyone.

Prioritise the children’s needs

Christmas should be a magical time for children, regardless of their parents’ relationship status. Try to remove any personal conflicts from the equation and focus on what will make your children feel loved and supported.

Plan early and be clear

Start discussions well in advance, allowing plenty of time to negotiate and make decisions that you’re both comfortable with. Being clear and open about what you both want can prevent last-minute confusion and tension. Whether you’re dividing the holiday or spending it together, ensure everyone knows the plan well in advance.

Create new traditions

It could be something as simple as decorating the tree, baking festive treats or opening gifts in a unique way. These will also help children adjust and embrace the idea of having two Christmas celebrations, giving them something to look forward to.

Be flexible and willing to compromise

While it’s natural to have strong feelings about how you want Christmas to be, the more flexible you make the season, the less stressful for everyone involved.

Keep communication respectful

Finally, maintaining civil and clear communication is vital. Avoid arguments or confrontation in front of children and try to keep the focus on what’s best for them. If emotions run high, consider using neutral language and, if necessary, take a moment to calm down before discussing arrangements.